Last month, while getting my daughter ready, I had mistakenly called her leggings tights. She promptly replied, “Dad! You don’t understand girls”
Stunned by this comment, (I thought come on, I know girls I've been surrounded by girls all my life)! But I just said you know what T, you are right.
Now this is going back a few weeks, and over a hundred messages, countless phone calls with other boys about their kids, wives and girlfriends, I’ve come to the conclusion that actually I do not understand girls/women. I always thought I was the modern man with the ability to be strong, sensitive, caring and a good listener but this is clearly the wrong approach.
It turns out boys don’t understand girls at all and probably never will.
If you open up too much to girls then you show your weakness like Kryptonite, if you say nothing your emotionless like MEH!! Show too much love, you’re too soppy, not enough and you must be cheating!!!!
We’ve talked about balance in our lives before in previous posts. For us to help maintain our mental health and wellbeing there needs to be a balance or middle ground in a relationship. Or so we would like to think. It just cannot happen. Adam always seemed to sacrifice a little in order for Eve to thrive, grow and become the strong woman she has become.
Why is this that men and women are supposed to be equal?
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With all the external challenges that women face the outlet for frustration is often directed at those closest, but as we are modern men we have become more sensitive and can't cope or understand the role we have to play in this new world, which is why we have the curious boys club. The club is an outlet to gossip about the girls, no seriously its to talk, listen, share our thoughts and feelings and inspire. (we do also have the curious girls club) Often these emotions are bottled up which turns into frustration or even anger directed at partners, or even self harm and suicide.
Young men committing suicide is the highest it has been in years.
Not for one minute am i saying this is the fault of our glorious women, but of society and the misconception that men don’t talk, boys can't cry or ask for help.
When one power rises it’s inevitable that one will crumble and so men are in a slight decline. If we cant rise as one and educate our children to have the correct values, moral understanding (which is their right whether male or female to succeed) we will continue to rotate on this treadmill we call life. And we thought we were in control of the lab rats??
I believe our children will posses greater understanding of today’s modern world not the jetsons world we mainly saw as kids.
We don’t all have to be the rough and tumble disciplinarians of yester year. We don't have to be the Aryan race once believed to be the future super power.
We have a choice, we are more curious about the world and we must give our kids and ourselves every chance to discover what the world can do for us and what we can do for each other. And for my daughter of dual heritage nature "if she's anything like me I'm raising a KING"!
Line by Little Simz song Therapy from the album GREY area